“Love has changed. It’s not as simple as it used to be.”
Matchmaker Amber Kelleher-Andrews of Kelleher International, a world-renowned matchmaking firm, has seen trends in love come and go, but believes real, traditional love will soon be back.
“There is a lot of conditional love that I think has brought a disruption to what traditional love is,” she said, “The dating apps have been a wonderful way for people to communicate and connect who wouldn’t otherwise meet but the problem is they weren’t designed truly around love.”
They were designed around an algorithm to keep you engaged.
In our interview, Andrews shares what is necessary to find love when you’re done with the apps.
Her thoughts may surprise you.
“You’re wasting a lot of time if you’re not truly ready.”
Andrews believes that finding love is more about you than it is about the apps, the bars, the matchmaking services etc.: “It has everything to do with you being in love with yourself first.”
Once you fall in love with yourself, you can more clearly figure out what you want.
It’s also important to understand the emotions behind what it is you want. Andrews believes this is most important. Then, your only job is to be happy and live in your joy and once the timing is right, your match will appear.
Here’s a list of the Top Tips to remember when looking for love:
- It’s totally acceptable to say, “I’m single & looking for someone”.
- Think about how you describe yourself and how others would describe you. Use this to better answer those “Tell me about yourself” first date questions.
- Describe what you’re looking for and be upfront about morals and values.
- Find the emotion behind the words that describe what you’re looking for. This will help you understand why those desires exist.
- Live in your joy and be happy.
- Once you meet someone you really like, see them in different settings. Meet their friends and do your due diligence to understand their real character.
“If you can love someone and be loved back, nothing else matters.”
Watch my full interview with Amber on IGTV below.
“Suffocate Yourself with Goodness”
What a young man with a rare disease learned about fighting adversity.
Is there a way to measure the success factors of optimism? Anyone facing adversity has most likely been told it’s all about outlook. Many may question whether or not optimism is as effective as society has led us to believe. Thankfully, Elijah Stacy is here to prove the power of optimism.
At a young age, Elijah Stacy was diagnosed with a rare form of muscular dystrophy called Duchenne. Duchenne is a a muscle wasting disease effecting under 200,00 Americans every year. Historically, nearly all young men hosting the disease did not survive into their 20s.
Now at the age of 20, Stacy has become an advocate for combating the disease and has published a book about his story, A Small If: The Inspiring Story of a 17-Year-Old with a Fatal Disease—and a Mission to Cure It.
Stacy did not write the book only for those fighting rare diseases.
He wrote the book for anyone facing adversity, from teenagers struggling through adolescence to those being bullied for being different to anyone interested in medicine, motivation and hope.
At the center of A Small If are 13 lessons Stacy believes are imperative for anyone looking for a new sense of empowerment.
Some of the lessons are relatively straightforward— “adapt” and “stay ambitious.”
Others are more complex, such as “connect the dots later” and the “dichotomy of control.”
Stacy points to lesson 13—“prioritize your character”—as one of the more difficult to learn.
“The only way to really build your character is to go through challenges. That’s how you exercise your virtue. What I argue is that character is the sum total of all your virtues. That’s hard to learn.”
Stacy’s life has been filled to the brim with challenges.
Stacy was diagnosed with Duchenne around the age of five. A decade later, he faced the difficult decision either to undergo spinal surgery or attempt to correct his resulting scoliosis through physical therapy. When asked if physical therapy could solve his spinal issues, his doctor gave him “a small if.” That moment is where his book’s title comes from.
Since his wise decision to pursue physical therapy rather than surgery, optimism has played a vital role in Stacy’s journey.
“Suffocate yourself with goodness,” he advises.
It’s a phrase that leaves me nodding my head, impressed with the young man’s dedication to pursuing the fullest life possible.
It would have been easy for Stacy to give up at multiple points in his journey. Both of his brothers also carry the disease, one of whom recently passed away. Like most forms of muscular dystrophy, Duchenne takes a tremendous toll on one’s body and has resulted in years of physical trauma for the author, who moves through life in a wheelchair. He is unafraid to discuss the disabilities caused by his disease but is quick to remind that he is never defined by it.
Most importantly, he believes a cure is imminent and that one day he will be free of Duchenne. Until then, A Small If and his daily life are proof of optimism’s power.
France is Banning Plastic Packaging for Fruits and Vegtables
This law could help eliminate over one billion single-use plastic items per year.
France will ban the use of plastic packaging for numerous fruits and vegetables starting January of 2022.
The French Ministry of Environment says this new law is an effort to reduce the country’s plastic waste.
The French Ministry of Agriculture and Food reports that 37 percent of the country’s fruits and vegetables are currently sold with plastic packaging and this law could help get rid of around one billion single-use plastic packaging items per year.
This new law is one part of the government’s multi-year program to phase out plastics. The plan also includes efforts to reduce the use of plastic straws, cups, cutlery, Styrofoam to-go boxes, and even plastic toys children receive from fast food restaurants.
The phaseout is expected to be completed by 2026.
See my TikTok video here
Delta 8 THC- What’s Behind the Suddenly Very Available but Questionable Products?
“It is a significant, real world public health risk for patients who think these products are as safe and effective as natural cannabis”
The hemp boom is over, and now we’re seeing the results of an industry chasing profit margins.
“The industry is rolling into a green rush derivative,” explains pharmacologist and neuroscientist, Dr. Greg Gerdeman. He wants to educate the public on cannabis, especially when it comes to the latest fads. For instance, products containing Delta-8 THC have become popular, especially in states where cannabis is still prohibited. Delta-8′ s legality is a bit murky because its a synthetic compound, something Dr. Gerdeman says is a misdirection from the promises of both cannabis flower and industrial hemp.
In our recent conversation on the Erupt app, Gerdeman talked about Delta-8, reminding us that “D-8” is not a specific strain.
“Delta-8 flower is hemp flower that’s been sprayed with synthetic D-8, that’s what D-8 flower is.”
“D-8 occurs in very low concentrations in cannabis plants, as far as has been discovered to date,” says Gerdeman. None of it is being extracted directly, it’s being converted from something else in a synthetic process, and there’s no D-8 producing strains. Any flower you get that’s sold as D-8 flower is hemp that was sprayed with D-8 that was made in somebody’s lab.”
Gerdeman compared the current D-8 craze to the CBD boom of the past few years. There was a massive amount of CBD produced in 2019 after the farming of hemp became legal.
“Farmers were promised the moon as though they were gonna make tens of thousands of dollars per acre growing CBD, and it was a false premise,” Gerdeman says.
Due to a skyrocketing hemp supply, with little infrastructure to turn the newly-legal crop around, the industry took a nose-dive, and experts say it could take years for the hemp market to mature.
In the meantime, all the extra hemp that was produced without a market to buy it, is being cooked and boiled into CBD products.
“It is a significant, real world public health risk for patients who think these products are as safe and effective as natural cannabis,” said Dr. Gerdeman.
You can watch our full conversation below and on the Erupt app.